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Trinity Sixty-Three - 2004-02-06 14:13:03
Wow some really great deep stuff. Have you ever read When Food Is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy by Geneen Roth. It is fabulous. I am so proud of you making that mind/body connection. You are on your way. This is how it all begins. one step at at time. xoxoxo
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cosmicrayola - 2004-02-06 14:36:04
I am only about 15 pounds overweight. I imagine you don't think that is much of a problem, but at 5'2" it is when it's all in your stomach. I look about 8 months pregnant. I know this and I know that if I just stopped the junk food and walked a little, it would go away. I just can't make myself do it. My point in all this is that with the weight you are talking about, I admire and respect that you are doing this. I can't imagine what it must like be for you. Whatever way works for you, you have my utmost support. Good luck!
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Inkdragon - 2004-02-06 15:14:47
This is a great mind/body connection! Your honesty is inspirational to me.
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Robin - 2004-02-06 15:48:05
Wow, I feel really guilty because my first that was the same as Supe's. If you really get a hold of this and truly figure out how to get past the addiction and the fact that you are controlled by the food (i'm still overcoming that on a daily basis, but i am determined to win) would you still have the surgery. i will continue to pray that you make a Godly decision and do what you feel led to do and what is best for you. but just don't close any doors up until the final decision must be made. who knows how you'll feel by then, sounds like you are on the verge of a major breakthrough and i'll keep praying for you to see it soon!!
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Sandy - 2004-02-06 16:17:17
I can understand Supe's question, but I also understand your sensitive reaction. But the fact of the matter is, one of the reasons they make you do WW before you get the surgery done (aside from table capacity) is to get you thinking about this stuff. These connections you're making...they are tools you will need once you get the surgery done, because they are tools you physically cannot live without. You won't have the luxury of being ABLE to binge. So, congratulations. You are on your way.
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fargahar - 2004-02-06 21:56:38
If I had to live with a shellfish allergy...I cannot even imagine. You have my sympathies. And Making the connection and realizing that you use food for therapy is one of the main things you need to realize on your way to a healthful recovery. (I am the "I am so sad only this whole bag of Doritos will make me happy again" girl)
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m - 2004-02-07 18:37:44
Hi i have been following your journey and my heart goes out to you. i have about 80 pounds to lose myself and i know how you feel. i too was addicted to food, i would just eat and eat all day long and then end up crying cause i hated myself, its this self-destruction that made me wake up! if a person has 10 pounds or 200 pounds mentally and emotionally we go through the same struggle, we fight the same demons, my point is girlfriend you have to do whats right for you. i understand you want to have the surgery done but i want you to understand that weight-loss surgery is not a CURE to obesity. you still have to control what food goes into your mouth and do you want to spend a lifetime of vomitting? i came across a website that i really think you should look at - www.mygastricbypass.com its one woman's true account of what it is really like to live with this surgery. to be honest it put me off, take a look at the photos of her plastic surgery pix cause after the surgery and the weight-loss the skin just sags and sags, do you want to look like that?? i am not trying to be rude here but i think i agree with your hubby. you love food like we all do and wouldn't you like to lose weight while still being able to enjoy food?? i think you should pick up a dumbell, say to yourself thats it and start the journey to inner health. the weight will come off if you increase your activity and weight-training will shape your body and tone up all that loose skin. please think about this before you go ahead with it, i am sure you have already thought this through but it just seems so final and it is not a cure. you need to heal inside first. also i noticed you list Fred's website as being a favourite, he is a perfect example, just look at him he did not resort to WLS to get to where he is today. read his book and be inspired......
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Jennifer - 2004-02-08 20:52:57
Hi. I, too, had the same question as Supe, and I do apologize. I know how you feel, though, about weight being a sensitive topic. I have bit my mom's head off more than a dozen times because when she sees a new fad or whatever in "prevention magazine" or "Reader's Digest" she is on the phone urging me to try it. I want you to know that I admire what you are doing. You are in the right path with all of the research you are doing and the introspecion about the ins and outs and other things. I know that sometimes people are too quick to offer their opinion (including myself at times) even with the most loving of all intentions, but it still hurts sometimes. Only you can determine and know what is right for you and what God's will is for your life. Whatever it is you decide to do, I support you and applaud you for your courage and determination. As for your shellfish allergy, ouch! That is NOT fun! I am so glad that you didn't end up having to take a trip to the hospital. I am allergic to the spice Cumin that is in mexican food, some italian, and PIZZA. It is NOT FUN not being able to eat PIZZA! People will say, "Let's order pizza" and I tell them, "I can't, I am allergic to it" and they look at me like I am insane! I hope you never develop an allergy that sends you to the hospital. Have a great week...
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