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Sandy - 2004-01-24 14:34:53
Beating up on yourself isn't going to make it better; you owned up to what you did, and you and Supe do need to sit down and talk about it, but everyone messes up sometimes. Especially if you've had financial trouble in the past, you have to expect backslides. The key is to not let the backslides turn into landslides, and honestly, the only way you can ever truly keep yourself from using those cards is to either cut them up or put them in a safe deposit box. Or I heard of a woman who froze them in a block of ice, so she had to wait for it to melt before she could go out and do something rash. I don't know how practical that is, but it sure is funny.
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Inkdragon - 2004-01-24 14:47:08
Change takes time and patience. Be kind to yourself knowing you have your sights set on becoming the person you want to be. Be honest with Supe and ask his forgivenss. No one is perfect. Trust his love for you. Good luck.
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fargahar - 2004-01-24 16:06:16
Call the presses...we found an imperfect person!!!! Burn her at the stake!!! I joke...I think in these times we all have these problems when we moved into our new house I went immediately to Linen's and Things opened a credit line there and maxed it out. Good financial planning there...we're all guilty of it at one time or another.
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Jennifer - 2004-01-25 23:33:12
You know, I have done this, too. I have failed with credit cards. My dad gave me his credit card number on numerous occasions when I lived in Mpls, and it was for school. Well, I had gotten a prepaid phone card once and my dad allowed me to use the credit card to add minutes to my prepaid phone card. Anyway, I overused my phone card by calling all over the place. I began to just charge more minutes on it. Anyway, I later had to 'fess up to my dad. It about killed me. My dad was soooo disappointed. I am so close to my dad, and it just cut my heart to hurt him like that. I used to be a horrible spend-a-holic in Mpls. I went thru a financial seminar when I went to the same school that Supe goes to. It hit me between the eyes. Not saying that I have arrived, though. Old habits sometimes come down the pipe later down the road. My DH and I have had our issues. When I was working my tail off working overtime, I once began to buy things off of the internet. I began to justify my purchases because I worked and made twice as much as he does. Well, that was pretty selfish of me. The thing is, sometimes you just have to do something nice for yourself. I am not saying that in a selfish way. If you work and work and work and just keep drudging along without some sort of small treat now and then, it really is hard. Anyway, don't beat yourself up. It is not like you went out and spent thousands of dollars. You work really really hard and you have a LOT of pressure on you. God's grace is there to help you.
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